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They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. But what happens when the holder sits to despise the reflection that surfaces on the mirror? What happens when the beholder is unable to hold back a tear when they see the image captured by the camera? Body shame...
Its amusing to see how we don’t need internet trolls nor bullies to shame or blurt out mean, uncomfortable things about ourselves, we do a perfect job on our own.
Self-portrayal has deteriorated because of the negative affirmations that we tell ourselves daily.
Recently I have been sharing some throwback pictures with my close ones
and one of the 1st thing I hear is “oh I was fat”. But that was not the purpose behind me sharing that picture. I shared that picture for us to go down memory lane and to reminisce that moment, sharing in the silliness, jokes and giggles surrounding that moment. We have come to a point where we can’t even look at our own reflections and shower ourselves with compliments.
We seem to be waiting for affirmations from the “right person” which in this context might be a spouse,boyfriend or crush next door.
If these compliments don’t come we start asking ourselves “Am I enough, am I sexy enough, am I good enough, am I beautiful?’ These are questions that taunt and torment us often. But when will you start appreciating YOU? When will we start appreciating our bodies, the stretchmarks, pimples, uneven skin tone? I am not going to tell you yes and affirm all these things for you.
The answer must and should be shaped by your tongue and spoken out by your mouth confidently, its obligatory, it’s a duty for YOU by YOU.
From my journey of self-care I have come to learn and appreciate where I am with myself: physically, mentally and spiritually. It is by acknowledging that you don’t like where you are and making the necessary changes for your own satisfaction and growth. Let’s not play: diets, gym, all these unnecessary skin care products can be draining. We waste energy and time that we don’t even have on these things. We are operating on scarcity, and best believe when we burn out that’s when we give up. We give up on the diets because they don’t seem to be working, we give up on taking care of our skin because the pimples seem to be multiplying, we give up on the gym because our muscles are aching and fatigued we can barely get out of bed.
Imagine if we would operate on the level of abundance! Impossible it sounds right? How would it be possible even when economics says there are finite resources to infinite needs and wants. KNOW YOURSELF! What do you want and need for you and only you. You are on the internet for hours and hours, surfing for things that do not help you. You try these things out, but your being simply rejects it because its simply not meant for you. This is a general life principle, what works for someone else does not always work for everyone. One mans medicine is another’s poison! Listen, there is only one you, one person with the genetic makeup that you do. Just because we share similar traits or behavioral characteristic it doesn’t make us the same. Let’s draw the line between SAME and SIMILAR. They are 2 completely different words though they share common roots.
What I am getting to is that you should know yourself first, love you first, take care of you first, listen and understand you first! Put YOU first.
Yes of course it's selfish because as humans we are natural borne nurtures, but how can you nurture others when you fail to nurture yourself?
It goes back the concept of operating on scarcity and that equates to insecurities, low self-esteem, heartbreak, anxiety and depression.
This series is meant to help you dive in the “unknown depths of you”. Challenging you to embrace all the attributes of yourselves that you have a love-hate relationship with. That way you can stand against anything and protect yourself from unnecessary hurt and heartaches. I wish it were a one on one conversation.